Marriages in which couples have good sense of humor, lots of patience and respect for each other needs less effort to work or be successful whereas, couples who lack these qualities have difficulty understanding what went wrong.
Let's understand why these characteristics are so important and how do they change or enhance your bonding with your soulmate. They won't help you if you yourself don't believe in them and you are just using them for the sake of your marriage. But it will work wonderfully for them who have faith and trust in these properties.
Humor or jolliness spreads happiness. People love watching comedy shows, or listen to stand-up comedians because they make them laugh, they make them look away from their daily worries for a moment. Imagine if your partner is not in a very happy pappy mood and worried about something and you lighten the situation just by cracking a joke or hug them like you will do it to a teddy bear or brew them a nice cup of java. If just for a minute it brings a smile to their face and they hug you back and smile, you add another happy day to your wonderful married life and add positive energy to your relationship.
And now imagine a situation where your spouse is worried about something personal or work related and you pile on your own problems of top of that, and try to project them that they are bigger and more important, and you can immediately smell a war brewing instead of that wonderful smell of coffee.
Humor is not a 100% solution to calm down a tense situation, but it does help. If you sense your partner needs some time and space, give them that and then come back and try again. Many times your spouse may indicate that they need to be left alone, but inside they want that warm comfort, a hug, an assurance that things will fall in place, or even if it doesn't there is someone who understands and will stand next to them always, instead of blaming everything on one person that they are responsible for the mess every time. Here patience plays a very vital role.
Wait for things to calm down around the given circumstances. Go for a walk alone so your partner can figure out a way to cool down and get things to work. Come back home, get your partner to sit with you and watch your family videos together and then order a pizza and relax.
You might be in a mood to watch a Romantic movie, but your partner might want to watch an Action Thriller, hence stick to something that you both agree, but just spend some time together, or best, get out of the house and go for a nice walk together and talk it all out.
A partner thinking that they can solve any problem, creates a wall around themselves. Any help is thrown off and the other partner then starts to feel that there is no respect, no belief and feel left out. Sometimes you may feel that you have an answer to any problem or you can come up with the solution, and don't need any external help, but a small word or gesture by your partner who truly wants to help you might give you that great idea to solve that problem.
Even if there is a big fight, or you are feeling down or even if your troubles are work related, do not be disrespectful to your companion. All these matters do not give you the authority to shout, scream or use harsh words against your partner. Just back off and wait for the partner to cool down and then plan to cook a nice meal together.
According to the study if you use these key points in your marriage it will last longer, stronger and healthier.
We wish you a very happy married life together.
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