The biggest question in a happy and now unhappy couple is
WHY...
- Love changes into routine?
- Love changes into duty?
- Love changes into responsibilities?
- Love's sweetness changes into bitterness?
We were the same person who fell in love and wanted to have an awesome future together.
Then what happened to our present?
The habits of our partner which used to make us laugh starts to annoy us now. Why?
Ask this question to yourself again and again whenever the anger starts to burn you from inside. Don't let it weigh on you but try to find a solution.
Once someone asked a very wise and Famous person:
"What is the most easy and difficult thing in life?"
He smilingly answered "Mistakes".
Easy to judge when others do it.
So please consider that we all make mistakes. Your partner should not be the only one standing in your court of judgement, you should see yourself in their too.
There are many saying for the deeds we do, like:
"Our karma comes back to us in some form or other"
"The seed we sow so will we reap"
"You will get the taste of your own medicine".
Oh, there's one more: "Treat others the way you want to get treated".
And I know there will be many more and the list will go on and on.
Let me tell you what happened to me the other night...
We had this dinner planned with our friends for months, which we couldn't do it due to this Covid Pandemic. Finally we made a decision to go ahead and plan it anyways at their place as they were now in our so called Covid bubble.
I dressed up elegantly and looked beautiful. I stood near the couch for my husband to notice but he opened the main door and said "This is good, you are ready, give me just 5 mins to change and then we will leave."
Yes, I was disappointed like any other female who wants some compliment from her husband. I threw it back of my head but still it lingered near.
Even our neighbor’s wife noticed and mentioned "ohhh girl, you look so lovely today". To which my husband just smiled and sat in the car. I looked at her and said "thank you", while smiling and trying to hide my frustration and anger, and we left.
No, we did not talk on our way, for situations like this, we hardly communicate. Maybe he read my face or he enjoyed this wonderful silence.
We reached our friends place, there was good food like roasted garlic bread, chicken pasta, mashed potatoes, hmmm, good food and awesome red wine. We chatted and I downed a few glasses of wine. I must say we had a fun time and enjoyed so much.
That alcohol did it's job. The red wine changed my mood. I was humming and dancing to myself and in my head all the beautiful memories of our dating days came back. Now and then I looked at my husband who was driving calmly. Yes, he didn't drink. Not sure if he really wanted me to relax and have fun or was that another "I let you do it..." thingy.
We reached home and he was in the bathroom freshening up. To elevate the mood I dressed in my girly lace satin dress and stood behind him so that he can notice me. Oh yeah, he did notice me very well, coz he said "hey, here sweety, the bathroom is all yours, I am done".
I felt ashamed, angry, guilty and betrayed at the same time. I covered myself up and went to bed, turning to the other side so that I don't face him. At this point it's better for both of us to avoid arguments. He turned off the lights and lay there peacefully, and now this act was eating me from inside, "How can he insult me"?
I turned on the lights to which he asked "What happened".
I wanted to vent my anger and so I did. Here we go...
What do you think of yourself? Do you think you can insult me and I will take it as if I deserve it? Who are you to turn me down, even I don't want to get involved with you?
He tried to interrupt many times but I was not giving him any chance.
I repeated lots and lots of things until I completely drained myself with all the emotional feeling till my head started to hurt and I left the bedroom.
I was standing in the kitchen with my cup of super-hot green tea when he approached me, feeling ashamed, I tried to avoid eye contact. He pulled my chin up and said "Is that all, or do you have anything more going on"?
I turned my face, to this he smiled which PISSED ME off more.
Then he said what I never ever realized myself. "Remember, about a month back, when I was in mood for some intimacy, but you turned me down by saying that it is a week night and you had work the next day so let's keep all this intimacy stuff for the weekends, so today I was just respecting your decision, and now you are just mad for that".
This made me realize how disrespectful and selfish I was to his feelings.
Today, when it happened to me, I got so mad. What about my husband? Shouldn't he act the same way, blame me and point fingers at me?
As I mentioned earlier, we all make mistakes, no one is perfect, not you, not me, not her nor him.
Let's always keep this in mind before pointing your finger at your spouse that three fingers point back at you as well.
Judge yourself before judging them.
So, right now, if you are mad at your spouse for any stupid reason, calm yourself down, breathe, smile, and fly to that crazy and unique thing you call your husband and give him an awesome hug with a big kisssss and flatter him by saying "I LOVE YOU, YOU ARE THE BEST THING THAT HAPPENED TO ME".
And if he doesn't say it back, then......
Disclaimer :"All characters in the story are fictitious, any resemblance to any living or dead individual is a coincidence.”
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