Love language
Husband and wife should have unique love language and they should OWN it with pride, as it is not easily achieved.
Love language, now what is love language? and What type of course do I need to take to learn this language?
Let's understand this one by one.
What is love language?
Love language refer to the different ways in which individuals express and experience love.
Expressing love is about finding ways to communicate your feelings and show your partner that you care about them in ways that are meaningful to them, and the best approach will depend on your unique relationship with your spouse and what your spouse responds to most positively. In simple terms Giving END is happy and Receiving End is also happy.
What type of course one need to take to learn this language?
Well, to learn love language, your teacher will be your spouse or better half. The university that you are going to attend is your and your partner's life environment.
Remember that expressing love is an ongoing process, and it requires effort and intentionality. Keep showing your partner love and gratitude and respect every day, and your relationship will continue to grow and thrive.
Love language can take many forms, and it's important to find the ways that work best for you and your lovable partner.
There is just not one way to use love language, it can be,
*Used vocally, say "I love you" frequently and sincerely.
*Show physical affection, such as hugs, kisses, holding hands, and cuddling.
*Give your better half undivided attention when you're together. Put away your phone, turn off the TV, and listen to what they have to say.
*Surprise your spouse with little gestures of kindness, such as bringing them their favorite snack or leaving a love note in their lunch.
*Plan special date nights or activities that you know your partner will enjoy.
*Offer words of affirmation and encouragement when your husband or wife is feeling down or insecure.
*Show appreciation for the things your partner does for you and for the relationship.
*Be supportive of your spouse's goals and dreams, and help them achieve them whenever possible.
Love language is more effective if couples have very good compatibility.
It's wonderful for a wife to feel excited and confident about her understanding of her husband and their relationship. Creating a love language that is unique to the couple can be a beautiful way to express their love and deepen their connection.
Same goes with the husband when creating a love language, it's important for the husband to consider what makes his wife feel loved and appreciated. This may involve exploring her interests, hobbies, and communication style to find ways to show her that he cares in a way that is meaningful to her.
It's also important for the couples to remember that a love language is a two-way street, and that it's important to communicate with each other about what makes them feel loved, adored, valued and at the same time acknowledged as well.
By working together to create a love language that speaks to both of their needs, the husband and wife can strengthen their relationship and build a deeper, more fulfilling connection.
Unique Love Language as per individual interest and personality:
If you want to make a unique impression with your love language, consider creating a personalized love language that is specific to your partner's interests and preferences.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
If you partner love adventure and love spending time outdoors then create
Adventure Love Language: Plan unique and exciting experiences for your partner such as hiking, rock climbing, or trying out a new sport.
If your partner is foodie then create
Foodie Love Language: Cook their favorite meals or take them to new and trendy restaurants. Show your love by making a special effort to cater to their tastes and preferences.
If your partner have love for reading then create
Intellectual Love Language: Engage in deep conversations, read and discuss books, and share interesting articles or podcasts. Show your partner that you merit their thoughts and
ideas.
If your partner is creative,crafty or an artist then create
Creative Love Language: Create personalized gifts or plan creative activities such as painting or writing poetry together. This will show your partner that you give importance to their creative expression.
If your partner enjoys music then create
Musical Love Language: Everything seems easy and beautiful when you have music around. Share your favorite music with your partner, attend concerts, and sing or play music together. Music has a powerful way of bringing people together and creating lasting memories.
Once you know your own love language, you can communicate it to your partner so they can show you love in a way that resonates with you.
It's important to note that everyone is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. It's important to communicate openly with your partner and understand their unique needs and preferences in order to build a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
For example, if one spouse love language is acts of service, they may feel most loved when their partner takes care of household chores or does something thoughtful for them.
The other partner may have a love language of physical touch, so they may feel most loved when their husband/wife holds their hand or gives them a hug.
Let's go through love language of Lillian and Fred
Lillian is very diligent, detail-oriented, and focused on creating a comfortable and harmonious home environment. She may also be a bit particular or set in her ways when it comes to how things should be done around the house, as she have a clear idea of what works best for her and her living space.
It's in Lillian's personality and she seems to value cleanliness and organizing things in her way, and takes pride in maintaining a tidy and functional household. She may have a strong sense of responsibility and enjoy the feeling of accomplishment that comes with completing tasks around the house.
At the same time, she may be easily annoyed or distracted by others who disrupt her carefully curated environment. She enjoys and prefer to work in a quiet and controlled space where she can focus on her tasks without interruptions or distractions.
Fred on the other hand is a busy professional who works long hours at his office, but he is also deeply committed to his family and his home life. Despite his busy schedule, Fred loves to help out with household chores whenever he can. Despite the demands of his job, he prioritizes his family and finds ways to contribute to their daily lives in meaningful ways. His willingness to help with household chores is just one of the many ways that he demonstrates his love and support for his family. For Fred it is his LOVE LANGUAGE which he is giving.
But does Lillian receive this Love language...
Let's find out together
When Lillian is busy working with kids on their homework, Fred would sneak in the kitchen and start doing dishes. Fred does that out of love but Lillian takes it in a way that Fred is making her feel low or he is trying to show her why there are still unwashed dishes or she feels he is judging her on how untidy the kitchen looks. This shows Lillian is not receiving Fred's LOVE Language
So when she enters the kitchen and find him working over the sink she just bust out at him and ask him to leave immediately. Which will leave Fred feeling disrespectful.
But both can't help, because for both of them love language is different.
Fred feels helping Lillian with house chores is love language whereas Lillian thinks otherwise.
Now what can Lillian and Fred do and how can they overcome this situation and how can they make love language work?
Why is this happening?
Well, in some cases, couples may have very different love languages, which can lead to miscommunication or misunderstanding and this is what is happening between our characters Lillian and Fred. In these situations, it's important for both partners to be patient, compassionate, and willing to learn from each other in order to create a shared language of love that works for both of them.
This process can involve open and honest communication, as well as trial and error as couples try different ways of expressing love and observe how their partner responds. As couples learn more about each other and deepen their emotional connection, they may become more attuned to each other's love languages and find ways to express love in ways that are most meaningful to their partner.
By understanding and fulfilling each other's love languages, partners can create a positive cycle of giving and receiving love, which strengthens their emotional bond and increases their intimacy.
It's also important to note that love languages can change over time, and partners should communicate with each other to ensure that their needs are being met. Being open and honest about your feelings and needs can help build a strong foundation of intimacy in a relationship.
Disclaimer :"All characters in the story are fictitious, any resemblance to any living or dead individual is a coincidence.”
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